I love all the personal style and fashion blogs out there but, to be honest, have unsubscribed from most of them in my reader.� I found myself feeling quite unattractive and coveting everyone’s very long legs and backs as smooth as marble.� I have thunderous stumps for legs and a c-section belly (times two).� We won’t talk about the back fat, agreed?
I must not be the only one out there who feels self conscious because I haven’t found many style blogs devoted to zaftig forms.� Andrea was kind enough to introduce me to this fetching Australian.� She’s cute, right?� She’s much younger than me and not a mom, but I think she is my size, or at least very close.� Still, just one blogger?!� Say it isn’t so!� There must be chubby mamas out there who would like to share their inspiration for what to wear on the everyday.
Please.� Is there another style blog I don’t know about?� Do share.
I meant to comment on your post a few days ago where you mentioned how pale your legs are because you don’t like to show them off, and since you mention them again, here goes: I saw those pictures of you from the wedding, and your legs have GREAT shape to them! Show those gams off, woman!
She’s so cute! Definitely my new idol.
OMG, she’s super-cute! But…since she’s Australian, you can’t get her clothes unless you pay in AUD and ship from the suppliers in Australia, right? Which sucks. Because I want to know HOW to get beautiful curvy-lady clothes when I see them!
On Fabsugar the other day, she directed everyone to http://www.sonsi.com. I haven’t actually spent much time there, but there seems to be shopping as well as blogs and message boards or something?
id have to agree with you here. although, going from a size 2 to a near 10 after having two children makes me feel like ive become monster sized. dont worry, i know its all in my head.. at least i THINK i KNOW. :/ anyway, yes, im interested in mom fashion in general. sorry, dont have any suggestions though.
Oh, and http://www.ModCloth.com has a FEW plus-size items – not nearly enough, but I bet you’d flip for their shoes, anyway…
And for blogs, check out this list: http://blog.starcostumes.com/plus-size-fashion-blogs.html. I only looked at the first 5 or 6, but some of them looked pretty great!
Jen–I know. I was actually looking in her Dec-Feb archives for some summer outfits. It’s kind of confusing to keep track of the season differences and the fact she (rightfully) shops AU hinders my online shopping! ;) I just checked out that Sonsi site (never been there before) and found a cute dress on sale for $20. At least, I hope it’s cute. I kind of hate online shopping for clothes.
I actually just found this one today http://www.tabayag.com/ . I’ve only read two posts but she is very positive and open about being a “plus-size girl in a skinny world.” Hope that helps.
If you do find one Jules, please do another post on it, I’ve been looking for AGES to find one.
You should check out http://www.fabfindsunder50.com/. I am a petite size 0, 2 or 4, depending on the brand, and still check her style daily.
http://www.fabfindsunder50.com/
I’m a size 8, but I love her style. She’s got great ideas, and a great eye for pairing items together and accessorizing…and all under $50!
She’s the cutest – AND I love her style! That’s one reason I’ve given up on most fashion sites … you’ve seen one, you’ve seen all. And I’m just sorry … sometimes, what’s in style … just shouldn’t be.
I wasn’t going to write anything, but came back because I had to.
So you won’t visit my site because I’m skinny??!!!! Feels like discrimination!
My site is mostly fashion, and I am a size two. I am 5’6″ tall and weigh 135 pounds this morning and every morning. I stay the size I am because I play soccer a lot, lift and run. When I start to drop pounds, I make sure to drink more water and eat more food because I know anything south of 130 is too skinny for my body.
I blog for myself, not for others. Though if I were being 100% honest most of the motivation behind putting my face, my clothes and my words on the internet every day is for my mom who lives across the country (it’s REALLY far if you haven’t made the trip). Regardless, I could care less if you visit my site or not, but frankly it was a bit disturbing to read this post.
Also: Every day I visit web sites of other people, often who have something that I covet (beautiful homes, spouses, children, etc.).
The grass is always greener.
I guess if I ever gain ten pounds, I’ll let you know and maybe you’ll stop by
I just found all sorts of cute summer dresses at Target in the plus size section. Also, Macy’s had some amazing cute stuff on sale for less than $20 in the plus area – INC brand.
I am a 14/16/18 depending on the cut of the clothing article. I have a style blog if you want to check it out. http://www.myslifeoflife.blogspot.com
speaking of Kimberly from FabFinds – be sure to check her blog roll, many of the blogs she links to is for the plumper than a stick figure!
i really like http://www.youngfatandfabulous.com/ by gabi. she does work for vogue and picks out rocking outfits
Stylefyles–Gain 40. Then maybe I’ll think about it. ;)
It wasn’t my intent to disturb anyone with my post. That said, the fact of the matter is people visit personal fashion blogs for inspiration. Jessica Schroeder has stated in numerous interviews that she dresses for her shape and chooses clothing that emphasizes her long, lithe figure–especially her legs. Good for her. That’s what I do, as should anybody else. Unfortunately, we couldn’t have more disparate body shapes. Today’s outfit (in fact, almost every outfit Jessica posts) would look positively horrible on me. Conversely, anything I would wear would hide Jessica’s legs, which would be a crime. That’s why I said I unsubscribed to most fashion blogs, not all. There are still plenty I read, and not one of them features plus size clothing. I read them because they present outfits I can adapt to my life and my shape.
A 5’3 mother with a long torso and stumpy legs isn’t being discriminatory just by stating she would like to find blogs authored by women who reflect her shape and life, and no one will convince me otherwise.
http://bevinalamode.blogspot.com/
Jules, I won’t get into the whole chubby vs. skinny thing. But I will say that I can somewhat relate to unsubscribing from certain blogs for certain reasons. Like you feel viewing some style blogs, I feel the same way viewing some (most) design blogs. I have total house envy and after reading awesome design blogs I often look around my home and start feeling rather unattractive about it. I especially can’t stand the design blogs that go on and on about their incredible “thrift store furniture purchase”, that they just so happened to reupholster with $100/yard fabric. Who do they think they’re kidding? oh, and I had to stop reading Summer Harms too because she is just so positively happy and perfect I can’t stand it (obviously I have issues, I know)
I did check out Gabi at YF&F and she is Fabulous! Way to go lady!
Thanks, Andrea. I certainly didn’t want to hurt anyone’s feelings. That wasn’t what I wanted at all. :( I have a finite amount of time per day to read blogs (we talked about this on Twitter) and while it is hard, I had to scale back and read my very, very favorites. In fact, I should probably scale back even more. You know how full my reader is! I do miss Sea of Shoes, though. That girl is a risk taker!
Isn’t that Gabi something? Gorgeous, too! I don’t have 1/16 the style she does. I admit I’m in unfamiliar territory with fashion blogs. Apparently there are many that I am missing!
no hurt feelings here, although I do plan to drill you when we meet in person about the style part of my blog. ;) curious to know what you think about it (if you read it actually). Sea of Shoes, well, I hardly, rarely ever, ever read hers because she obviously has gobs of money. While it does take courage and a fab sense of style to pull off what she does, it is also a hell of a lot easier to do with money. her shoes are holy guacamole to die for though! I much more appreciate the style blogs that pull off looking great with limited resources. Okay, I’m done now. Obviously I have a lot {too much}to say on this whole topic HA!
Oh, I can talk about this all day. I love the blogs that pull it off with limited resources, too. I also like Sensibly Styled, which is more of a fashion blog. Plus-sized or not, I think I would look nice in most of the clothing she blogs about. Of course, the tagline of the blog is Modest Clothing for Women so it really just suits my personality overall. Even when I was much thinner, I still dressed kind of prudish. In a good way, of course. :)
Yes, I read the style portion of your blog. Believe it or not, I had a romper in college. I was a size 4 and still couldn’t pull that thing off! Those are made for women with long, willowy legs.
I found a cute company in Marie Claire the other day Igigi.com they are going to be on The BSP. For the record you don’t have tree stump legs or man hands. I heard back fat is from stress (I have a lot of it, basically I need a backwards bra!)
xo,
t.
Back bra! Hilarious.
Oh my gosh, just checked out the link, that girl has style in spades! I love that yellow floral dress and cardi, so, so cute I want her to dress me.
I don’t think you’re being discriminatory, Jules. You make choices that preserve your sanity and happiness.
It makes me think of my decision not to pursue a publishing career in NYC. I think I would have enjoyed it and been good at it, but a weekend visiting my relatively successful cousin in his teeny-tiny apartment and being overwhelmed by how expensive everything was and just the sheer amount of things to do left me having a panic attack in a cab. I knew that I would always be comparing myself to the fabulous, beautiful, together New York women I could never ever be, and that I would be miserable. And so I didn’t move there. My choice, to preserve my sanity and happiness, and not discriminatory to New York.
More power to you for making those kinds of choices. And talking about it.
Wow, stylefyles. I’ve never visited your site, and I certainly wouldn’t start now. You obviously know nothing about discrimination. Would it be discriminatory for a straight-dressing man to skip over your blog simply because he doesn’t wear skirts? No. Your blog just wouldn’t have the right style for him. You should be ashamed of yourself for even entertaining such a thought, let alone typing it out for everyone else to see. I can’t say anything more that Jules hasn’t already eloquently stated.
I totally know where you’re coming from… At a size 18, I am constantly frustrated by blogs from smaller women that feature clothes that I love but are not offered in anything near my size.
Booo.
I am 5’2″ and weigh… too much:) I’ve finally learned what will work on me for the most part, but I still mess up once in a while. I try not to read any style blogs because they usually feature clothes that don’t look good on me and sometimes don’t look good on the people writing the blogs. I never, ever leave negative comments, though. I haven’t checked the ones in this comment section yet. I’m going to. Maybe I’ll see some great stuff that will change my attitude. :)
Jules, you should def write a few posts about your style, what you like to wear, cos every time I see your outfits I think: “ohhhh this is so cute!”
I totally agree there isn’t a lot out there for curvier girls, it is a shame :(
Jules, as a reader of many, many blogs I do not read them because of the size, shape or whatever of the girls. I read them because I enjoy seeing their sweet families, recipes, crafts, outings, etc…..it saddens me to read this blog today because in fact I love coming here to your site and see you and your sweet fam. I will put the shoe on the other foot. I always wish when I am finishing reading your blog that I could write like you and many times that makes me so , so jealous but still I read each and every day you blog but I also realize that maybe I do have some other talents that you might not have. So I am skinny too…so who cares??? this is not about this body of ours this is about who you are as a person inside. Now how would you feel if I did not come here because I am tired of listening you whine about your weight??? would this be fair? I do not think so…I think you are an incredible smart beautiful girl and I wish you would stop thinking otherwise.
hugs !!!
Honestly, I have no use or time for fashion blogs that cater to women who are 20 pounds underweight, even if that body shape currently fits the norm in the fashion industry. I have limited blog reading time and I’m not going to waste it looking at photos of super young girls who weigh 100 pounds.
Doesn’t mean they shouldn’t be able to have blogs, more power to them. I just don’t want to spend time thinking “that’d be so cute, if I lost 20 pounds.” That ain’t gonna happen. Not because I can’t. Not because I don’t know how to drink water and eat healthy and blah blah blah. But because I choose not to spend all my time concentrating on that. I’m a healthy, normal weight and my husband loves me and I rock my bod pretty well and, well, that’s it.
I would, though, love more blogs to focus on what you say, Jules, cute style for normal women. I love Frocks & Frou Frou. Love her. Here’s to finding more of the same from this thread.
Thanks for bringing this up.
Thank you Esther, but I feel there have been a few things taken out of context and the lawyer in mean isn’t going to just zip it and move on. It’s like you dumped chum to the sharks! :)
I also read blogs about families, recipes, crafts, etc. I can’t do half the things these women do, and I don’t care. I love looking into their lives and I love learning new things. I said I deleted most of my fashion blogs, and that I did so because they don’t reflect my lifestyle or body and don’t celebrate what’s great about MY OWN body. Or, at least, that’s what I wanted to say. I wrote the post quickly and perhaps should have elaborated more. I really didn’t think it would be a big deal, so I’m sorry for taking on the subject lightly.
Let’s be clear: I WILL NEVER BE TALL. I WILL NEVER HAVE TOOTHPICK LEGS. Do I care? No. But why should I read a blog that features thigh-high minis? Or stiletto heels and conceptual outfits? Because if I can’t wear what she wears I can at least learn about color and composition? I can do that anywhere. Why not go to a blog where I can get all that and a link to something I would buy? I have a finite period of time during the day in which to read blogs. I want it to be worth my while. Trust me, given endless amount of time, I could read blogs forever. As it is, I spend too much time reading them for The Mister’s taste.
There are some plus sized blogs people referred me to that I won’t read because the style of blogger is not my own. I am a mom who dresses modestly. I see nothing wrong in trying to find the same (plus sized, regular sized, bean pole sized) in a fashion blogger. If I am looking for inspiration to use in my own closet, what is so wrong about looking for someone whose taste reflects my own? Or shops at places I can shop, too?
As for people no longer reading me because they are tired of hearing me whine about my weight? Well, I don’t whine about my weight, so I wouldn’t be sorry to see people who are misinterpreting my posts go the way of the Dodo.
I don’t want anyone to think that I am sitting here looking at blogs eating Ding Dongs and feeling sorry for myself. I’m not. I happen to think I am pretty awesome. Fallible and apparently unable to communicate a simple thought in less than 500 words, but awesome nonetheless. :)
My goodness, this is heating up. Why does this sort of thing get people so weird and hot and bothered? I’m 5’6″ and 130 lbs (complete with a double wide bottom half) but who gives a shit? Everybody’s got her own issues with her own body and everybody has to learn to put on her big-girl panties and work around them.
Jules, you do a great job with that. No, you probably shouldn’t look to my closet for inspiration regarding shape and cut — won’t hurt my feelings. I probably won’t learn much from you on that score either (though I do admire your use of color — I tend to dress like a Greek widow who works in accounting). I quit keeping up with the fashion blog world because it made me feel completely impoverished — this is sort of the same thing, really. Things that don’t apply to your life can be interesting, but probably won’t give you a lot of practical advice.
What’s the big freaking deal? Keep on keeping on, Jules.
10,000 points to Val for the sentence: “I tend to dress like Greek widow who works in accounting.”
Oh Jules, if you do get a few that you like, could you post them? I am an average looking twenty-something and I read a few fashion blogs but, yes, they don’t really do it for me.
And who knew that this would get people so heated? (By the way, whenever you post outfits I totally envy them! You do bold color well.)
Thanks for throwing my blog out there. :) If you check out my sidebar for links there are lots of other plus-size fashion blogs, and I also have the I Love Fatshion Network, which as a page devoted to them so feel free to browse around!
Sometimes I dress outrageously, but I am a dress girl, so I’m always wearing nice dresses and hunting down great finds for plus-size women, so hopefully you’ll enjoy!
– Sarah
http://www.tabayag.com