And so it ends. In the words of my friend, Harvey, Whew! Glad that’s over.
Yesterday we had The Mister’s family over to celebrate Christmas. It was low key, casual, and a perfect reminder for me to focus on the one resolution I have planned for the year: celebrate more.
The Mister and I are born recluses. We would gladly and graciously decline every party invitation we receive with only a twinge of guilt. We are no more hospitable at home, either. As newlyweds, we at least had people over (very) occasionally. Now we can say–a bit shamefaced–we never have people over.
We can blame this transgression on our hermit personalities, but there is a good deal of perfectionism mixed in there, too.
The house isn’t decorated the way I want.
We need a new dining room table.
My cooking could be better.
Maybe people won’t have a good time.
It’s too expensive to entertain the way I would like.
We’re tired from soccer and baseball and homework and life.
We really aren’t that fun.
And many, many more reasons I can come up with to keep from entertaining.
This year I have decided to worry less about what people may or may not be thinking about me, my food, or my house. At first I didn’t know what this meant or how I would measure my success, but I think I have come up with a game plan. At least once a month, we will host a party (small or large, the size is irrelevant). With people. And food. Maybe invitations, although a simple phone call is okay, too. Whether we celebrate the ordinary, the extraordinary, or the seasons, it doesn’t really matter. The idea is to gather together friends and family without thought for the bathrooms in need of a remodel or the fact that the art of pie crust making continues to allude me. (And for that, Pillsbury, I will always love you.)
January marks the first party. I’m not sure who or what or when we will be celebrating, but with citrus season in full swing around these parts, I can tell you what the menu and theme will most likely revolve around. Unless, of course, you can think of something better. I’ve been looking online for books on entertaining, and I can’t seem to find any good ones that include children. I don’t want to exclude the boys and, since most of our friends have children the same age, it seems silly to do so. Alicia Paulson has been recommending the book Food for Friends for years now. My friend, Kara, recommends anything by Ina Garten. Please do share your favorites.
So, that’s it. My resolution for the year 2010 is to celebrate more. I’m already a ball of nerves, antacid in hand.