Today is Ash Wednesday, the beginning of the Lenten season.� I’m going to give up reading blogs for forty days.� It will be like fasting, only without the weight loss and stinky breath.
For an avid reader short on time, blogs can be the most beautiful siren song.� At any given moment, you can read touching and funny and cute and pretty all from the comfort of your home or car or desk at work.� Inspiration is at your fingertips anytime, anywhere, at a price anyone who can get to a library can afford.
In the three years since I clicked a link and landed on the very first blog I ever loved enough to keep reading, I have been inspired to sew, knit, craft, and cook.� I haven’t done very much of that because those who sew, knit, craft, and cook will often link to other people who, in turn, inspire me to photograph, write, and decorate after I mother from the heart, refashion my wardrobe, and organize the cans in my pantry according to color and size.
The links!� My God, the links.� Well the links that keep linking and the clicks that keep clicking and the clock that keeps ticking never will stop for a mom with a husband, two boys, two dogs, and a house.� I’m positive; I checked.� (At least two times.)
Poof.� Three hours.� Gone.� Every time.
Occasionally I will glitter a dinosaur.� More often, I don’t.� There isn’t enough time to emasculate ferocious beasts, not when you can read about vintage corningware or Charlie Sheen and his wily ways.� And, on the off chance someone hasn’t thrifted an Eames shell rocker for $3 in North Hollywood or knit mufflers for the street lamps in their town or announced they are a near-sighted recovering kleptomaniac with synysthesia, I sit back in my chair and think, well now what do I do?� Surely I can’t sew, knit, craft, or cook.� Or photograph, write, or decorate.� Mothering, fashioning, and organizing (definitely organizing) are also out of the question.� There are far too many people who do it all better than I ever could.� And even if they don’t, they actually get up and do it.
That is why I am giving up blog reading for lent.� As inspiring as blog reading can be in small doses, it can be downright debilitating when I act like it’s my mission to visit every last blog worth reading.� There is just too much great content out there and after a while I start to feel to the left of zero.� Everyone is more creative, more talented, and more skinny.� Also, I think I� just felt another aftershock from Saturday’s 3.9 earthquake.� It made the ice clink in my glass and moved my straw.� Or, maybe my ice is just melting.� Whatever.� My shoulders are bowed under the weight of the tragedy of it all.� Woe is me.
I’m a well fed, well educated, stay at home mom who should worry more about being grateful than being creative.� Pray more than she covets.� Encourage more than she gossips and live more than she reads.� With a few extra hours a day, I just might do that.
At least for the next forty days.
good morning,
this is an interesting way to practice lent.
i was thinking myself the last days what to do the next 40 days but yet didn’t think of anything good. will you stop blogging as well? or just reading them?
the other years i always stopped eating a certain food, or drink… never thought of getting rid of a media. thank you for giving me something to think about.
wishing you a good time.
Admirable, especially when I reflect on the amount of time I spend online instead of oh, say, reading an actual book, exercising, sewing 10 yards of curtains, praying, learning how to grind my own wheat, etc., etc. I’ll keep my eyes peeled for that Eames rocker, but I may have to Indian Leg Wrestle you for it. Or offer them $5 instead of $3. Totally worth the extra cash.
Here’s to crossing my fingers that you’ll still post over the next 6 weeks!
You are a strong strong person! I don’t think I could give up blogs. Well, actually I know I couldn’t. What would I do with my time when I’m supposed to be working? And please don’t say I could actually work. That might make my head explode. I too hope you aren’t giving up posting. That could kill me. Nobody wants that. That would ruin Lent.
I’m still posting! I’m curious to see how it affects what I have to write about. Like, maybe I will have something to write about if I’m not spending all day reading what someone else has to write about.
I honestly don’t know if I can do it! I’m already feeling weird because my morning routine is always check email/read blogs before the boys get up.
Learning how to grind my own wheat. I have to chuckle, because I am taking a natural foods cooking class (online) and the people who do exactly that almost every day.
This post is both hilarious and true. I *love* my long list of daily blogs, and am inspired by them to to end. However, I’m more often than not left feeling ‘to the left of zero’ like you said; feeling inadequate in comparison to all of the incredibly talented and crafty people out in the world. I think it’s good to give it a rest for a bit, and remind ourselves of all of the good, great, and wonderful things WE do, crafty or not, that other people would be lucky to replicate. Good luck in your quest – I hope it brings you peace of mind and leaves you feeling centered…. possibly even inspired by something entirely of your own life.
I was chatting with friends last night when Lent came up. They were speaking of a move away from simply giving up something for Lent, toward doing something meaningful and productive. Makes perfect sense really – actually, a move closer to the true meaning of Lent. Sounds like you’re doing a bit o both. And while I’m not Catholic, it has made me think of what I might do … what can I give up, for someone I love … so I might serve Him better …
wonderful post. i have also tried to talk myself down from the ledge after reading about homemade felt valentines for each kid in the class (thanks katie did) and other crafty goodness. i know those projects are planned and prepared but i still feel so inadequate. i love that you say what most wouldn’t (how dare you make fun of the thrifty Eames finds! – i am convinced they are urban legends). i think you are on the right track keeping it real and focusing on the simple things in life. my project will be keeping a journal of short blurbs (less pressure) each day about being grateful. glad you will still be posting!
Remember when you asked us which of your blogs we liked the best? Well, I keep coming back to your blog because of blogs like today’s. Sometimes I’ll flip through a big bunch of blogs looking for crafy inspiration, or new recipes or whatever. But the blogs that have good writing, honesty and humor like yours are the ones that end up in my “favorites” list. Keep writing.
A bold choice, giving up blog-reading! I’ve given up TV during Lent a few times, though, and that’s always treated by some people as a HUGE deal. So I understand, sometimes you just gotta do it. I’ll be praying for you!
We’re in the middle of moving across the country from San Diego to Washington, D.C. (staying in hotels as we go and then spending a frantic week or so looking for a place to live before my husband starts his new job) so we’re missing out on the beginning of the Lenten season this year. I was just sort of shrugging it off as one of those things that happens when you’re in the military, but you know what? I have my laptop with me and I’m keeping up with email and blogging and reading blogs. If I can do that, I have time to observe Lent in some small way at least. So I signed up for an emailed daily Lenten devotion. Thanks for making me think and inspiring me!
That’s great, Bethany! What Lenten devotion are you doing? I would like to check that out for myself. :)
p.s. I just went to your blog (Only to read your bio, promise! I check the links every time someone leaves a comment.) and you are very pretty and have a lovely smile.
Oh, and Victoria–Paris?! You can’t beat a birthday gift like that. :)
WHAT? That is worse than giving up chocolate. Or perhaps I should say more difficult.
But I have so much to say! And you will miss it!
Just kidding. Kind of. Good luck, and happy lent.
(I am not Catholic. Does one wish someone a happy lent?)
More difficult, definitely.
Usually, Catholics just say something along the lines of, “Good luck with that.”
Jules! I can definately identify with the three hours …or more…gone just like that. My husband says that one day sometime soon I will “reach the end of the internet” with all my blog reading. But there are so many good ones and so much inspiration to be had! Thank you, thank you for linking to littlebrownpen the other day. Last night I spent hours on that blog and fell in love with it instantly. Your post is funny and real, as always. I will keep reading over the next 40 days, I promise. : )
How great for you!!! Enjoy the next 40 days of free time. : )
Well when you return to your back slidin’ readin’ ways…come visit us!! :)
Cheers! Chris Ann & Kristin…..who never ever ever blow off their 9 children total, forget to start dinner or take out the dog or switch the laundry while reading and doing this blogging thing…not ever. Ok, now we’re off to confession.
Elena! My husband says that to me ALL THE TIME. “Did you get to the end of the internet, yet?”
Jules – I love that you really get what Lenten fasting is all about. It drives me CRAZY when people go on and on about “giving up candy” or whatever. Lenten fasting does not =new diet. It’s supposed to be for spiritual renewal, about charity to the poor and gratitude for what you have. Not about fitting into your skinny jeans. In the past my husband and I have fasted from TV and various other habits that were becoming all consuming, like reading blogs etc. I have to encourage you and say that various alternative Lenten fasting really helped us temper some bad habits. Good luck to you! And enjoy the next 40 days!
What a great idea Jules! I think I might just hop on that Lenten bandwagon. I was just discussing with my kids last night what they should give up. I thought about giving up my one Diet Pepsi but the thought of the week of headaches from withdrawl made me, well, think twice. I know if I do this not only will I be giving up something that is difficult, it might just improve my daily time constraints. That said, here’s to 40 days without blogs, starting…NOW!
Wow! Very brave! I know you can do it. I would definitely have a hard time with this one.
How interesting. I can totally relate — it’s amazing how blogs can make you feel both inspired and inadequate all at the same time. Best of luck in your endeavor!
(P.S. — I’m giving up meat for Lent, which is a pretty big deal for me. I’ve already been tempted todaywith delicious BBQ, but I stayed strong!)
What a great post. Hits home, too. I decided to give up shopping this Lenten season. Very hard for an avid spender like me. Glad I found your blog- looks like a new favorite!
Uhm, to quote your genius, ‘Good luck with that’…
My blog reading has dwindled lately, as I’ve been overwhelmed by my schudule as well as the sheer horror of my Google Reader feed. When I click on it and see 1,124 unread posts I’m incapacitated and unable to read any further. I’m giving up snacking between meals and already I’m stunned at how many times I’ve been tempted today…although perhaps ash Wednesday fasting isn’t helping. I’d hop on your bandwagon too, but missing out on gofugyourself.com’s fug madness pool for the worst of celeb fashion is too hard to resist. Plus, I don’t want to miss out on your hilarious stories of Lenten temptation and success should you choose to write about it. ;)
Hah! Well, you’re definitely not going to want to miss me recount what happened after mass today. ONLY ME. That’s all I have to say for now. I’m still collecting my thoughts (and pride).
I think this is a great idea! Sitting here with my ashes on my forehead, I’m actually feeling kind of inspired to try it as well.
I’m interested to hear how this goes!!
How wonderful! Time is our most precious resource. What a great opportunity you are creating for yourself to devote to some of the untapped aspects of your life! I sometimes have to remind myself that I don’t live online. :)
i know just how you feel.
replacing the time doing those other things would certainly be a good thing. i know so many people who give up this or that during Lent, only to fill it with something equivalent. it is my hope this year that i will spend more time being faithful and fruitful and prayerful, and less money so that i can put it toward where it is truly needed – but gosh darn it if i don’t want those double gourded teal lamps at marshalls!!!
i love your blog header! :)
Hah! Susan, I know exactly how you feel. :)
Thanks, Tinypaperheart. I’m actually looking to do a redesign, so it’s funny you say that. :)
I am impressed Jules! I don’t know if I could do it. Sad huh?
Sadder still I still haven’t decided what to give up yet. I am kind of thinking of giving instead of giving up. Like doing ____ once a week (or day) for 40 days. Last start? Yes. But that’s okay.
Sheesh, any ideas?
Ok. Do. Not. Laugh. Don’t.
Do you want to know what I’m giving up for Lent? Ranch dressing. No joke. It’s my biggest food vice and when faced with 40 days without having ranch with pizza or ranch with french fries, I almost cried. That’s when I knew I had to give it up.
Do not laugh. I’m serious. Seriously craving french fries and ranch dressing, that is.
The first thing that comes to mind is pray and meditate. My church is recommending 10 minutes in the morning, ten minutes at night. They are also suggesting people read The Practice of the Presence of God by Brother Lawrence. I k now nothing about this book, but I plan on reading it. I’ll let you know if it’s any good.
Hah! Meredith, I’m only laughing because I used to love pizza with ranch dressing. I completely understand. :)
WoW! You are a MUCH stronger person than me! As I was sitting in Mass yesterday I was trying to decide what I will give up. I want it to be something I’ll really miss. I’m still deciding.
I’m definitely not strong enough to follow your lead! Bravo!
Your last paragraph is one we should all heed. Thanks for the reminder!
Ditto. Ditto. Ditto.
I need to sit down and rethink a few things. You’re amazing, BTW.
Jules – I’ve heard great things about “Practicing the Presence” but haven’t read it myself. Please give a review if you are so inclined!
how is the no blog reading going? i am deep in the blogs today as work is very slow. i also stumbled upon a website for mindful parenting. free course too. not sure if peoples are interested but so far, so good…i just started.
http://www.childperspective.com
ooooh, i’m so proud of you! reading blogs is the part of the day that (to get all jerry maguire on you) “completes me.” okay, that sounded rully, rully stupid, but you know what i mean. girl, you have picked one heck of a thing to give up, and you’re a true inspiration. i decided to give up starbucks and panera treats. it’s day three and, um, i’m strugglin’. but in the end, it’s really not a struggle at all, considering what the Jesus Man did for us, right? i’m all “wandering in the desert for 40 days AND nails in the hands/feet” vs. “no treats for me.” yeah. pretty obvious that i’m not really suffering that much. ;)
okay, i TOTALLY wanna hear about what happened after mass. you can’t leave us hangin’ like that!
check out my ashes: http://withlovefrompittsburgh.blogspot.com/2010/02/ashes-to-ashes.html
we’re talking *FIERCE*, huh? i think they’re a pretty rockin’ look, dont’ you? yup. got ’em from the bishop himself. he doesn’t mess around. too bad i got them at 6pm mass, because i wanted to rock them all. day. long.
sending love this lent…and hugs.
with love from pittsburgh,
laura
aw, crap. remember that time i was like “hey, go to my blog and check out the picture of me rockin’ the awesome ashes!” and totally forgot, in the span of 12 seconds, that you GAVE UP READING BLOGS FOR LENT?
i’m such an idiot.
waaaah waaaaaaaah.
sorry.
xoxo,
laura
Laura–I went to your blog just to look at the picture. HOLY MOLY those are some ashes! Your priest or deacon either has really big thumbs or used a paint brush. ;)
Wow, that’s really a challenge. I can relate to the hours spent following links about celebrities when I could be playing with my kids or reading or writing or doing something more productive. Good luck. I’m interested to hear what you accomplish with all your newfound time.
You are so awesome. You just have a way of putting things that is so real and beautiful, and you get what Lent is about. I am in total admiration. My Lenten goal is a modified version of yours, for the same reasons. I have up 3 specific message boards that I am addicted to, and blogs that I do not have saved as favorites. I knew I would fail if I said all blogs. I have already failed even with this tempered version, but every day is a fresh start and I am trying and praying for strength. I think I will let myself check yours first (hopefully last, too!) as a reminder and inspiration to stay strong in this fast.
I am so very jealous of your cutting out blog reading! I would love to try this and see how it sparks my creativity and inspiration (and cuts back on stress), but it’s currently part of my job. Ahh! Enjoy your time “off.” :)
Uh, I just now got back to checking these comments. Sorry I didn’t answer your question sooner: I signed up for emailed Lenten devotions from Lutheran Hour Ministries.
And thank you for the kind words about my smile and my blog bio. :-)