Comments on: Favorite Moment | The Mister

By: Francoise

Francoise — Mon, 19 Sep 2011 07:42:07 +0000

Thank you for this. I’m 12 weeks pregnant with our first child and contemplating the stay at home gig with a raised eyebrow. Scaling back, abandoning my hopes and career in ER nursing (a fast-paced and chaotic environment I thrive in) to dedicate myself to my family seems… both wonderful and frightening.

But I have a husband who loves me, who gropes at me in the kitchen, a thrifty attitude and decent DIY skills. With love and effort… anything is possible – including breaking the mold our mothers broke from theirs just a few decades ago.

Your post was both enlightening and reassuring. Thanks again

By: Becca

Becca — Tue, 09 Aug 2011 03:50:31 +0000

Thank you for this post- I know I am a few years behind in reading it, but this is right now the story of my life… I graduated with a BA in Business from CBU Dec 08 and started their vigorous 1 year masters program in January. A few weeks into the program I ended up quitting because I found out I was pregnant- I could’ve continued, but I felt so many emotions and pressure and stress that I knew I would not be able to physically take care of myself let alone a growing baby (stress and I DO NOT mix… in a very bad way) so I quit. I was so disappointed in myself for quitting, knowing even though I will be doing something just as good by taking care of myself. I was like you- had to be on top, had to do it, the whole tunnel vision thing… my world crashed horribly. After I accepted my pregnancy (mind you the hubby and I had been married for 3 years and said after my BA we would try for a baby- I didn’t think it would happen for a while- was my mind set) things began to kinda settle, then baby came and I really wanted to stay at home, alas being on a tight budget having student loans to repay and a car payment I had to return to work. I love my job and the incredible flexibility, but it was not suppose to be long term. I expected to be somewhere else, somewhere making much more, working more hours. Eh. So I began to venture more into my photography (here comes more tunnel vision) and when I get going, I get sucked into the taking and editing of photos and nothing tears me from it. A few years later… The hubby is now going into the navy which will support me being a stay at home mom and I am terrified, I will be pretty much closing my photography business until life has settled and I can better handle the tunnel vision. I LOVE my son and I want more kids, but I don’t know what to do with him or with myself- I’ve always worked or gone to school and have had my life very much so “planned,” but now I wont… I am absolutely terrified- just knowing someone else has gone through something similar helps me feel a little better. Thanks for sharing your story (and for letting me share mine).

By: Lauren

Lauren — Sat, 04 Jun 2011 17:24:42 +0000

This is the most amazing post I have ever read!

By: Z

Wed, 11 May 2011 14:22:29 +0000

I don’t even remember which links I clicked to get here (first timer on your blog!), but I teared up a little reading this. Can’t wait to read more.

By: Mary Elizabeth

Mary Elizabeth — Tue, 10 May 2011 03:10:02 +0000

I do work part time and as uneloquent and abrasive as some may have found the previous poster I did feel like I was floundering without some adult conversation. I have my own small practice and work 10-15 hours a month and that has done a world of good for me personally. It’s important to note that working part time is a solution often thrown out there but very difficult to actually pull off. Childcare is difficult to find for limited and often inconsistent hours. Part time work is difficult to find and not everyone wants to or can have her own law practice. Men do not justify professional choices to other men. Let’s not demean women because of hers, as a sahm or working mom or in between.

By: Mary Elizabeth

Mary Elizabeth — Tue, 10 May 2011 03:01:49 +0000

I feel like I found my own personal little club of women. I had two babies in law school. Landed the dream big law job. Bought the fantastic historic fixer upper. Had baby number three. Cried myself to sleep each night. Quit job, sold house. Had baby number four and am finally at peace. My boys 5,4,2 and 1 will not wait but my career and yea the second mortgage, I mean student loans, can be deferred until they are grown.

By: Jennifer

Jennifer — Tue, 03 May 2011 22:53:37 +0000

I’m a mother of 4 (ages 2 – 7). I am also an attorney. So is my husband. I quit being an attorney too. Sometimes, I think that I “should” return to practice. But, I can never return to these days of being home with my young children. The practice of law can wait, but this precious time cannot. Thank you for helping me to remember that!

By: Sarah

Sarah — Thu, 28 Apr 2011 13:32:21 +0000

Thank you. That was beatifully written.

By: Stephanie

Stephanie — Mon, 25 Apr 2011 05:03:01 +0000

Some people do not understand how important mothers are. Some people are not cut out to mold children into amazing young people… but, I know that your children are who they are, because they have had you at home 100% of the time. They are secure, confidant, intelligent, amazing individuals… and you have not missed a beat.

My wise, 90 year old grandmother recently told me…”In 50 years, when you are looking back at your life, you will not regret the years of salary that you didn’t have in the bank, or the bosses you didn’t impress, or the clients you didn’t work for… But you would regret if you had not spent the time smelling the roses, reading books, playing hide & seek with your kids.” (Which by the way is the BEST kind of role model your children could ask for, because time makes a child feel VALUED!)

Some women have to work and do not have a choice but to allow their children to be raised by day care, and many wish they could be home more. Their children will probably turn out fine… but if given the choice I admire those moms who choose their children over their careers. It requires more sacrifices than most people will ever understand, but those people also don’t understand it’s unique rewards.

By: Ivonne Loving

Ivonne Loving — Sun, 24 Apr 2011 01:22:29 +0000

Thank you Brooke for giving me a voice also. I live under the same exact circumstances, my husband is in school and I am the breadwinner. While I couldn’t ask for anything better than my husband staying at home and caring for our son, and while he is the greatest…I must admit I go through periods of resentment for having to leave my son. I always thought that being a professional was the path I wanted but truth be told as soon as I held my son for the first time I would have gladly changed everything. I cannot see the day that my husband graduates and I can stay home with my boy. Thanks for so eloquently describing what I find so hard to say without feeling judged.